Talking is an important part of life. It helps us break the ice and it can solve an array of problems. A conversation can help strengthen a relationship and teach us something new – sometimes even things we never thought we could learn.
Just imagine if you could talk to animals or spiders to be exact, the way that Dr. Doolittle did. What do you think that spider in your shower might have to say?
Not interested in the spiders perspective? You wouldn’t be alone. In western society, around 55% of women and 18% of men experience a fear of spiders to some degree.*
But what if a little chat could chase your fears away? Arachnophobia rates would plummet!
What Exactly is Arachnophobia?
Arachnophobia is a fear of spiders and is the most common of phobias. Just the feeling that there may be a creepy-crawler in the room, is enough to create anxiety -- so much so, that a person who feels the fear often goes to great lengths to ensure that they won’t be exposed to one. Just the sight of one on a computer screen will set them off. Scientists and psychologists are still unsure of where the fear may have started.
The reality is, in most cases, there’s no reason to be afraid. Spiders are more afraid of us than we are of them. Here are the facts:
-Most spiders will bite humans only in self-defense
-Most spider bites have no more effect than a bee sting or mosquito bite.
-Most spiders are not capable of penetrating human skin, with the exception of the black widow and the brown recluse.
The exceptions? The black widow and the brown recluse. You might be justified if you have a fear of them!
So Why Be Afraid?
For people who have an overwhelming fear of spiders and need help with their anxieties, psychologists have used relaxation techniques along with exposure therapy to help tame the fright. But I prefer to simply talk to them. You might want to try my technique…
Next time you get out of the shower and spot a sneaky fellow staring at you, all you have to do is take a deep breath and ask for your privacy. Take note of what he does. He’s not crawling towards you right? He’s just minding his own business.
Assuming this little guy comes from a long line of distinguished arachnids, I imagine he would say something like "excuse me Madame" and leave you to go about your business. After a few more pleasantries, he may become a little more tolerable and hopefully you won’t see him as the enemy for very long. And then just get on with your day. You both have better things to do than to get caught up in a web of anxiety.
If it works for spiders, I can’t help but think it’ll work for all kinds of pests. We could kindly ask the mouse to find another house because he is flaring up our allergies, or tell the moth that she is putting holes in our favorite clothes.
Keeping Spiders Away
Not ready for a friendly conversation? Then the next best thing is a natural solution.
Spiders dislike strong smells and certain natural oils. So why not try making your own spider spray? The scent of citrus, lavender, peppermint, citronella, cinnamon, tea tree and cloves should do the trick.